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This has been one of those years where I have learned far too much for my own good. One of those years I know my children will experience even though I don't want them to. One of those years that's been a fucking rollercoaster.
Friends have already been made and lost. Money has been dropped on endless amounts of pointless shit. Health has been sacrificed for the good of the team. Sanity has been compromised. Fear has been faced head on. Limits have been pushed.
Part of me is proud of myself for surviving. The other part of me wants to go home to my family and cry. But I think I'll go by the former.
The most important thing I can take away from my ridiculous experiences in college thus far is as follows: Chin up, shoulders back, fake it 'til you make it. Boys aren't worth the low self-esteem, alcohol isn't worth the bad decisions, bitches aren't worth the fights, and big girls don't cry. Don't ever let them see you cry. Suck those tears back in and own your shit. Show the assholes that you're better than them; show the whores that you've got the dignity and integrity that they don't; and show the idiots that you'll get further in life because you have more intelligence than they can imagine in their puny brains.
Don't go out trying to make bad decisions because chances are they will happen on their own. You don't have to plan them. Trust me, you'll have your fair share of mistakes and fuck-ups. But when you do make that bad decision that seems like the end of the world, don't let it hold you down. Get up, brush yourself off, and keep plowing through life. Don't let it be the end of the world.
Nobody wants to be around a person who constantly regrets everything they do. Put on a brave face, tell yourself you'll get through it, and move on.
We all screw up. We're human, and as college students our frontal lobes aren't fully developed. It's inevitable.
The biggest mistake I made this year was letting all of my stupid decisions control my feelings. I let douchebags define my mood. I let every guy who wasn't interested break my heart. That only happens if you let them. Don't give them that power. Hold on to it for yourself and exercise self-confidence. If anything, that's a lot sexier than crumbling just because a pretty boy doesn't want to marry you.
My point is this: harness that strength you know you have, even when you doubt yourself. Fuck the rest of the world. Prove to yourself that you can be who you want to be. At first, you might care what other people think. Teach yourself not to.
I'm not saying that any of this will be easy. It won't. In fact, finding this strength will be one of the hardest things you ever do. So you better start practicing now.