VoiceActressKurutta In reply to ULTRADJ4EVER [2015-06-09 01:14:52 +0000 UTC]

Sure. I haven't been online as much lately, but if you ask some, I'm sure I'll see them eventually.

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TSSMGreenGoblinFan In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2018-03-12 15:11:11 +0000 UTC]

Hi! I was wondering if we could do a Wordgirl fanfic, please? ^^

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ULTRADJ4EVER In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2015-06-09 18:14:52 +0000 UTC]

I was gonna ask how much you like Word Girl, if you're getting tired of it and all that and maybe ask you to do a WG comic with me, but it seems you are busy though. I'm just asking around for an artist and such.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to ULTRADJ4EVER [2015-06-23 17:23:19 +0000 UTC]

I still love it quite a lot. The show has changed over time, as shows do, so I haven't been expressing my appreciation with quite the same enthusiasm. As for the comic, I am pretty busy. I also switched computers lately, and now I don't have photoshop on my new one, so that's also a large part of the reason I haven't posted art lately.

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ULTRADJ4EVER In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2015-06-23 18:15:34 +0000 UTC]

Okay then, thanks for your time.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to HerculesTopHat236 [2015-02-09 22:11:21 +0000 UTC]

Thank you.

Unfortunately, I'm not really taking requests right now. I haven't had much time for art, so if I do get any, I'd rather draw some older ideas I had.

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HerculesTopHat236 In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2015-02-10 03:31:38 +0000 UTC]

Oh, that's OK.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2014-11-25 14:55:04 +0000 UTC]

Oh. I actually don't really get the picture, but thanks for the thought.

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2014-12-11 04:03:54 +0000 UTC]

Well, what I gathered is that Sofia Just misheard what he said, and the artist might have had the same problem hearing it wrong because English isn't her first language, which is why she drew the picture?? But... I didn't think that had too much bearing. I just showed it to you because I know you're in the fandom, and it's a really well-drawn picture. I didn't think the dialogue was a major aspect.
You're welcome.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2014-12-12 18:18:43 +0000 UTC]

But that's not Sofia...? Which is why I'm confused?

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2014-12-13 04:06:17 +0000 UTC]

OHHHH, sorry!!! Obviously I've never seen the show, so I couldn't really tell.
In that case, I think that's some kind of humanisation of her character/OC (which may be related to her artistic depiction of herself), which is called Prima. She's usually drawn as a smurf... But it looks like she just uses that character across a lot of fandoms... It might be herself or an OC, it's hard to tell since the character is only a little child.
But yeah, sorry about that; I didn't realise. Obviously you'd be confused.  

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2015-02-02 22:11:51 +0000 UTC]

That's alright.

Yeah, I kinda figured it was an OC. A lot of people do that sort of thing.

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2015-02-07 03:39:46 +0000 UTC]

Yeah. It looks like it's kinda both an OC and a depiction of herself... But yeah, it's something along those lines.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to multificionado [2014-11-18 00:14:49 +0000 UTC]

I'll take a look.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to TaylorKnetterArt [2014-11-17 20:41:09 +0000 UTC]

Hi! I do too. Life's been alright, I guess. Not great. I've been really busy, so I've barely been on dA at all. D: I'm only on now 'cause I'm kinda sick-ish today, and I don't have class, work, or any soon-due homework. I'm still drawing, more or less, and I need to get around to posting some stuff, but other than that I think I kinda fell off the face of the earth in terms of dA.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to InfernoTornado [2014-07-21 15:22:50 +0000 UTC]

You're welcome.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to KailynDickasonArt [2014-01-28 01:25:22 +0000 UTC]

No problem!  

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to ULTRADJ4EVER [2013-11-19 19:25:55 +0000 UTC]

Sorry, I don't have much free time, and I very rarely draw people stuff for me, so... Sorry.

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ULTRADJ4EVER In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2013-11-19 21:59:15 +0000 UTC]

It's okay, I understand. Just keep up the good work on your end.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to ULTRADJ4EVER [2013-11-25 21:29:51 +0000 UTC]

Thank you

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2013-10-21 13:57:51 +0000 UTC]

Oh, yes, I've listened to that one for years. like it too.

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2013-10-22 07:48:52 +0000 UTC]

Haha, awesome! Just... I love it so much! It gives me a nice warm feeling!

And of course, I love that smurf reference in it too! 8D

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2013-10-22 14:21:49 +0000 UTC]

Hahaha, I figured you liked that part.  

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2013-10-28 05:38:33 +0000 UTC]

Yeah. And I found the bit with "Beavis and that other guy...? Nah." hilarious/priceless too.

While I'm speaking to you by the way, I've been meaning to thank you. Ages and ages ago on tumblr I saw you'd responded to someone's anon about asexuality, and you introduced me to the term "demisexuality". Turns out, I think that's me right there. I think we're on pretty much the same wavelength there. Although, I'm not entirely sure... For all I know, I might be that other term too, "heteroromantic".

But thanks so much for introducing me to that term!

I wish I'd had a better understanding of what asexuality was when I was younger. For some reason, I foolishly assumed that it's people that don't ever feel attracted to ANYONE, romantic or otherwise. But I'm glad I know better now. I'm just glad I know what demisexuality is now because for the longest time I've just felt really different from other people and isolated, because I just don't understand, genuinely don't understand society's craze with sexuality, honestly, so I felt like I was just a little bit weird and not like everyone else for automatically understanding.

Anyway, sorry for raving but just wanted to let you know I'm glad for you introducing me to that term.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2013-11-05 19:37:48 +0000 UTC]

Right.  

Ohh, cool! Well I'm glad for you! Have you seen the picture that shows sexual and romantic orientations as a spectrum, where people can fall anywhere on the chart? 

I wish I had too, actually. And for a long time I had never even heard of the term, so I hadn't really realized that it was something that could exist. But I know what you mean! I felt different from other people for ages. Honestly I thought the idea of sex was legitimately revolting for the longest time, just because of how society basically turns everything into a fetish or some sort of sexism these days. It actually wasn't until recently that I decided I felt like a demisexual, now that I can understand more things and ration through them more carefully. But yeah, I definitely relate. I've thought I was crazy or hormonally unbalanced for most of my life.

No problem!  

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2013-11-06 08:12:55 +0000 UTC]

I may have seen it... But I'm not sure. I don't think so... Could you possibly link it to me?

Yeah, same here. I'd never known about the term "asexual" until... Well, not too long ago. I might have seen it around as long as two years ago... But I never had bothered to actually look into what it was even then; I didn't know what it actually entailed until very recently actually. I'd always just assumed, "Oh, well I've had crushes on guys before so that's definitely not me. It could only be me if I've never felt any feelings romantic or otherwise ever in my life". I just assumed Heterosexual = likes opposite gender, bisexual = likes both genders, homosexual = likes same gender, so my mind naturally went, "So asexual must be = likes neither gender!" :/
I was exactly the same way!!!! I know exactly how you feel!!! I don't think "genophobia" is the right way to describe what it was like, but it comes close. I think all kids are grossed out by it, but their opinions change when they get older. Well, for the longest time they didn't for me. And I just felt really weirded out by the whole craze in the media of how virginity is such a bad thing and how apparantly "everyone" wants to get rid of it. Like, what???! Ugh. I mean, for the longest time I thought: why? what's so good about it? Why would you WANT to??
And that's why I'm a very strong supporter of marriage first. I think that's one thing that I completely agree with when it comes to Christianity, and I don't see any problem with getting married first. I think it's best. But once I mentioned in the forums on here, "I'm an atheist but I support marriage first" and immediately someone jumped on me about it. But at the time I couldn't express my demisexualism properly because I didn't know it existed.
I'd probably consider myself asexual and/or heteroromantic if it wasn't for my first boyfriend. But really I'm not so sure because it's all very confusing. We were quite young when we were together, but foolishly enough we both automatically assumed we'd spend the rest of our lives together; and he and his family are devout catholics and his mum is strictly marriage first, which I had absolutely no problem with and if anything was very happy about (even though it didn't matter anyway because we were ridiculously young and it only was there because, like I said, we thought we'd never split up, for some reason). If anything, it made me feel relieved. But we were completely satisfied, I think, with this for two different reasons: for him, because he saw it as reasonable and responsible, as well as adhering to his family and faith, but me for the simple reason: why would you even want to? And I assumed he felt the same as me. But then over time I began to think that maybe nah, after marriage he'd be fine with it. And that made me terribly uneasy (once again though, this was years and YEARS into a future that would never actually happen ) and so for a while I actually, unfortunately, put a lot of pressure on myself to feel differently about the whole thing. . I wouldn't have felt so stressed out if I'd known back then what I know now; it was all very silly. But I did manage to break down some barriers and today I'm so different from when I was back then in that respect. Like you, it no longer repulses me as it used to, but I'm really still not sure how I feel about it overall. It's good not to have that repulsion anymore though. But I do wonder what all that pressure did...?
Anyway, I did feel very, very strongly about my ex, and I was very crazy about him, and that was the only thing that made breaking those barriers down possible. So that's what makes me think I'm demisexual, because I'd definitely have to be very, very deeply inlove with a man, and like I remember you answered to the ask, marriage first as well. And even THEN, I'm not entirely sure.
....I'm so sorry, that's probably too much information, isn't it? I realise that; it's just that I really needed to mention this stuff to someone, and at least I know you could partially see where I'm coming from. I just wanted to share it with someone, you know? Really sorry though. ><
Although, with the whole asexuality thing, that would be strictly only romantic feelings, wouldn't it? Because without any pressure at all, I was attracted to my ex when I was with him. We were an incredibly reserved couple though, haha, we held hands and hugged only very (extremely) rarely. And we never even kissed! For me, I'm absolutely fine with that stuff. But there's only so much before I object.
But overall, yeah, it seems that we see eye to eye with about every aspect of this.
Well, it's great that you don't think that anymore.

Thanks so much for reading this by the way... I really appreciate it. I hope I didn't weird you out or anything. :/

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2013-12-23 09:40:52 +0000 UTC]

I actually can't find it again. :/ But it was on tumblr, so it might recirculate sometime?

Yeah, I think I might've heard the word like four or five years ago, but I didn't know that it was actually a thing until maybe two years ago. But yeah, I know what you mean. That would seem to be the natural conclusion.
I guess it might just depend on how long it takes people's opinions to change? 'Cause I was thinking it was gross when everyone around me was really horny, so I felt really out of place. But yeah, the media is really messed up.
Even if I wasn't a Christian, I think I'd still be in favor of marriage first. I mean... the idea of it is so intimate... why would you want to share that with multiple people? How could you look at someone the same again if you slept with them and then later broke up? Aw jeez.... well the person who hassled you about it was probably just a jerk who couldn't be bothered to imagine that sometimes people have different opinions.
Ah, yeah. I know what you mean. I haven't really had an official boyfriend, but I was sorta an 'item' so to speak with this one dude several years ago and I thought I'd be with him forever too. But yeah, I'd be relieved too. I hope the next person you date also supports marriage first so you don't have to deal with the stress of wondering if, eventually, they're going to start pressuring you to do something that you know you'll regret later. But I know what you mean!! I started to wonder if the guy I liked would stick around if he found out that I might not want anything even after marriage. And yeah... back then I knew asexuality might be a thing, but... I just didn't understand that someone can fall anywhere on the chart of sexualities and orientations because it's strictly all about how you feel. You don't have to be completely one way or the other. And that's what I didn't understand back then. Yeah.... though I still think I'd feel better about the idea of it all if there wasn't so much negative information coming from TV and stereotypes. People act like it's almost never that great for women - that they just do it to please men. People act like ALL men are sex-crazed and will lose interest in a woman if they don't put out, even if the woman's supposedly the love of their life. And that outlook... well it might work for some people, but it seems very bleak to me. And I just can't let myself to believe some of those things are true because, if they are... well, why bother?
Mmhmm. I don't like the guy I used to be with anymore, but at the time I definitely remembered feeling WAAAAY less closed off to the idea of physical contact than I used to be. And it's been awhile, but I've started being vaguely attracted to people again, which, for me, is a good thing, 'cause normally I don't even bother paying attention to people. So I totally get what you mean. I think I'd have to sleep with someone first to know if I'd like it or not, and I'm not going to 'til I'm married, so for now I think I'll just look for the right person, and if they're truly the right person, they should be on the same page as me and it'll all work out... at least, that's what I want to believe.

Nah, you're fine. It just took me awhile to respond to, 'cause this one's really long AND it was at the bottom of a few pages worth of messages, so I got to it last. Yeah, it's good to get things out like this. I don't mind talking with people about more 'awkward' topics like this. I think it's a healthy thing to do. Afterall, if everyone kept things to themselves, no one would ever know that they 'weren't the only one' in various situations. It helps us get knew perspectives and such too. And sometimes we don't even realize we think or feel certain things/ways until we hear ourselves explain them to others. Etc.

Well you can be heteroromantic and asexual. Sometimes asexuals are attracted to people. And it doesn't even mean they're repulsed by the idea of sex or never feel sexual attraction ever. It could just mean they prefer not to have it. And other times asexuals don't even experience romantic attraction. Really it all depends on the individual. You don't have to follow a set of exact guidelines to be able to consider yourself a particular orientation. That's similar to me and the dude I liked. We cheek-kissed and we did hug often, but mostly we just held hands. I'm actually, nowadays, a fairly physically affectionate person. So I'd probably kiss a guy a lot and cuddle and junk, but I'd still draw a pretty firm line.
Mmhmm.

No problem. I'm not weirded out at all.  

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2013-12-25 04:33:16 +0000 UTC]

Ah, that’s fine then. I think I might have seen it anyway… It’s just that I wasn’t entirely sure.

Yeah, exactly…
I can imagine that you would have felt really out of place, not to mention uncomfortable…
Yeah, I mean, the whole idea of “multiple people” isn’t especially jarring to me, it’s kind of tied into relationships in general. As I’ve said, I’ve only had one boyfriend and we talked about getting married and even growing old together, and during that relationship I shaped my worldview in a kind of “I’m going to have this one boyfriend and one relationship for the rest of my life” kind of way, and it was a breakup that took me absolutely forever for me to move on from, so the idea of one person for life was pretty heavily ingrained in my mind. So with that being said, even having another boyfriend/relationship and having the same feelings towards someone else alone seems strange to me, actually I could go on about this for a while. My whole life revolved around my ex when we were together. In my mind, everything about him was perfect (and I believe true perfection is imperfect) so I treasured his imperfections just as much… So even now, I’m still struggling with the idea of someone with a different face, a different personality, a different voice could possibly gain my attachment in that way when I’ve spend so long attributing it all to just this one guy. It’s kind of jarring, because of how painful the breakup and everything was, I don’t think I’ll ever be able to feel as strongly towards a guy ever again like I did with him… And I have even had people tell me this, because I was completely and utterly vulnerable and exposed emotionally, also young and naïve, which is why the breakup shattered me so much… Now I’ve had that experience, I’ll automatically be better emotionally protected and will never be hit that hard again, but mostly at the cost of not investing emotionally as heavily. Sorry for raving on, but yeah I do agree with that as well. :/
About the forums thing, at first he was rather rude towards me, but when I responded calmly elaborating and attempting to explain my point of view, he backed down and admitted that he’d misjudged me. The main thing people were using to object to my viewpoint was that, “If you marry them first, you might be sexually incompatible” or something like that, apparently meaning the chemistry with “it” isn’t all that great, regardless of how the people feel about each other emotionally. Of course this doesn’t really matter to me as a demisexual, but people were pointing out that it “is a pretty big part of a relationship” and couples could potentially break up over it if they are unsatisfied. Anyway, the person who at first was rude to me about it did say that they agree that for some people it is a pretty big deal because a person can feel very vulnerable and exposed, but they still said that they thought that waiting until marriage was a bit extreme. Of course, most of this seemed to be assuming that I “want it just as much as everyone else” and am simply intentionally holding back, which couldn’t be less true. At least, that seemed to be the subtext of what people perceived my viewpoint as being judging from their replies. I didn’t even want to come out and say “actually, even the idea of intimacy I find rather overwhelming and I don’t think I even want to do it” for a fear of being immediately slammed by anyone who saw the comment, or that because of that people would assume I’m childish or something.
Ah, well he was an “official” boyfriend to me because I can’t really see it any other way, we saw each other as being in a committed relationship and he saw me as his girlfriend and I saw him as my boyfriend, but… it wasn’t “official” in the sense that people actually knew about it. Our parents believed we were too young to be in a relationship, so they kept a strict eye on us. We were never even official to our friends. About one or two of my friends knew (and were forbidden to tell), and other people that I told couldn’t spread the word because they didn’t know any of the people that could potentially get us in trouble… It didn’t help that his brother was in my grade and in several of my classes, and he also made sure to spy on us. So we could never even hold hands unless completely alone, and that was extremely rare. Besides us being an incredibly conservative couple, that’s also a major reason that our relationship was mostly emotional. So yeah, in most people’s eyes it was a case of “they’re totally going out, they just won’t admit it” and they were right. Even his parents could totally see that we were disobeying their wishes because it was so obvious… But we could never get in trouble about it because we never provided absolutely solid evidence that we were together. I’m not really sure what you mean by just being an item with someone and not having them as an official boyfriend, though…
Yeah… :/ I can’t really see myself with someone who wouldn’t be accepting of my feelings and have the audacity to actually pressure me though… :/ I must say that my standards are ridiculously high though, to the extent that it’s actually amazing that I managed to meet someone like my ex who fit them all almost perfectly at the time, and actually liked me on top of all that. And I’m not one of those people who is all “I must have a boyfriend and he must be like this…”; my standards are high and mainly for genuine reasons I can’t change, such as my demisexuality, so if it’s either someone who breaks those expectations or no one at all, I’d prefer to go with no one. Of course, that’s not to say that it wouldn’t be nice to have someone to be with… Because it would be. :/ But yeah, I can say the same thought crossed my mind at some stage too, but I automatically dismissed it with an “of course not” because I just couldn’t see/imagine him doing that to me.
Ugh, don’t even get me started on what the media has to say about it… :/ It’s really kinda sad. I could rant about the media’s depictions of this for ages. Yeah, I agree that outlook is definitely incredibly bleak. Oh and don’t worry, I’ve been aware of the wild inaccuracies (frustratingly so) of this kind of thing in the media for ages. :/ There’s just no point in believing those ridiculous suppositions are true. Well, if you see that as a good thing, then it must be a good sign/thing then. Yeah, I feel kinda the same. Although I don’t expect to find anyone because of my setting expectations too high anyway… :/

Oh my goodness, you have no idea how relieved that makes me. See, I feel I can never be entirely sure, because sometimes I feel when I’ve brought up topics with you which seem a little awkward but I felt we could put it behind us and discuss it openly, you seemed to get really weirded out and stuff, sometimes even when I thought what I was saying was perfectly okay… Like, sometimes I have an inkling you might get weirded out, but I push that doubt aside and then when you do actually get weirded out or misunderstand, it hits me like a brick, and I’d never seemed to learn from each instance, and I thought this time would be the same kinda thing where my reply would make you really uncomfortable when I was hoping it wouldn’t, and I’d have to apologise all over again… And so on. So I’m really glad you see things that way; because I was beginning to be a little worried and had pretty much reached the conclusion that you’d decided to just not respond to me anymore. But I totally understand your late response; and if you respond late to this as well.

Also, you’ve always struck me as the kind of person to not want to have these kinds of conversations… You’re certainly a lot more comfortable and open about this than I am, but I guess that’s probably due to the fact that you’re older than me. Even though you like to keep your age vague, I’ve pretty much gathered that you seem to be a couple of years older than me, or simply older than me at the very least. You definitely have more life experience. Anyway, thanks so much for having this discussion with me, and yeah, it does feel healthy to talk like this.

Yeah… That’s true. I’d just hate to start labelling myself with an inaccurate term, or have people have misconceptions, so I like to be as accurate as possible.

Ahhh, what I wouldn’t give to have even experienced the cheek kiss… XD Even that was out of the question for my ex and I at the time, and would have been a major step for us. XD

Haha, yeah me too, but just platonically of course. I’ve noticed that for some reason I hug friends and stuff a lot more than I used to… But yeah, I agree. The line would be firm with me too… :/

By the way, I’m not sure if you saw it, but I responded to your post about demisexuality on tumblr describing an experience  I had with a friend when I told her about the whole demisexuality thing…? This is already far too long so I won’t go into it here in case you’ve already seen it. :/

Anyway, have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

PS: interestingly enough, you just happened to make your response at the exact same time another friend's three responses I've been waiting for for over a month came in.

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2014-05-12 15:30:08 +0000 UTC]

Sorry I'm responding super late to this.

Yeah I totally understand. I didn't have that same experience, but I can completely imagine it. It sounds like a difficult situation. ;_; But I totally get that. My first experience that wasn't even really a relationship left me feeling guarded, both in good and bad ways.

Ahhh, well that's good! I like it when people can admit they were wrong. Oh yeah, I've heard that argument before. But like we've said, I think the emotionally connection is what fuels the physical/sexual one. I mean, I know how big of a deal it is changes depending on the person, but I feel society as a whole is just too focused on sex. I mean, I can't imagine that I would get married to someone who I don't love enough to give up sex for, ya know? I can't see myself going "oh wow, you're not good at sex, guess we have to get a divorse!!". So yeah, I completely agree. I admit that recently I've gotten more curious, but I don't think I even come close to wanting it the way most people do. But that's a shame. :9

Right, I understand. Everyone has their own definition of official. Oh wow, that sounds exceedingly difficult. I mean, I'm totally conservative, but even with that one guy, I held his hand all the time. Oh well... I didn't see us as official because we never went on a date or admitted that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. We didn't really talk about the nature of our relationship, but we held hands and hugged and even had some cheek-kisses, so it was obvious that if he started going out with someone else randomly that would've been betraying me. I'm not sure how to explain it right.

I agree. I feel the same way. I actually frequently think about the fact that the chances of me meeting someone who meets my standards, who is good for me, who I like, and who likes me back.... well, let's just say I've got a better chance of winning the lottery AND being struck by lightning twice... all in the same day. I try not to think "he must be like this..." but I have such... peculiar tastes, and I really only know how to relate to people through shared interests, so... I feel like he'll have to be fairly similar to myself, preference wise, without having my abrasive personanlity. But you're right. No one is better than the wrong person.

Huh... well I'm not sure what to say. It might just be how I come across online? Who knows? I'm sorry I put you through that confusion; it sounds very frustrating.

Well... I dunno. I think I've changed a lot in the past few years? Like, I dunno. I think my depression hit me a lot harder between the end of highschool and the start of college, and so I just had this onslaught of apathy for things that somehow lead me to being fairly blunt with my conversations? I don't think it's a direct cause of depression, but that's all I know to attribute it to? Anyway, I'm a lot more forward than I used to be, that's for sure. I can't remember how much older I am than you actually. I can't keep the ages of my online friends straight. Or heck, even some of my IRL friends! No problem!

Right.

I'm sorry. Though, if it's any consolation, in hindsight I wish I wouldn't've experienced the cheek kiss? But in my case that's 'cause I really don't like the guy anymore.

Hmm, I think I eventually responded to it on tumblr? If I didn't, I'm sorry. I know I read it. Oh gosh, this was so long ago and my memory is crap.

Oh wow, that's ironic.

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2014-06-22 06:51:06 +0000 UTC]

No worries.

Yeah... I'm glad that you understand. It was difficult. And like, I just spent so much time drilling it into my head: wow he's my soulmate. This guy. We are made for each other it is so perfect. This person. The rest of my life. And even now, sometimes when I look back I still feel kind of stumped about how compatible we both were in the most unlikely of ways. Even now I can just hardly believe it. He falls under the definition of a soulmate for me so perfectly. And like. All these little signs. Y'know? Even now the only way I can put it into perspective properly is to let myself think yes, he was my soulmate. He was perfect for me. He was someone I could have been with forever, if things just didn't happen the way they did. Kind of acknowledging that he IS a perfect match, even though we aren't together...? I don't even know anymore... XD This stuff is just too multifaceted and complicated to even begin dissecting... And what I just wrote just makes everything even more confusing, so...

Yeah, it is an admirable thing. And yeah, I agree... And yeah, exactly!

Yeah, true. It was really difficult... :/ It drove us insane. XD Like, hand holding and hugging...! It would have been amazing if I could have done that all the time. XD
And ohhhh, okay. See, the whole concept of "dating" conjures to my mind going out to some restaurant. And because of our ages and the level of secrecy we had to keep of course that was never even an option. So the concept of dating is a little bit unfamiliar to me. But yeah, from that explanation, I get what you mean. I think the only misunderstanding I'd now have is whatever difference we both might have in what we define "dating" as being. XD Because I wouldn't say my ex and I ever "dated", but we were in a relationship, so...?

And oh, I totally feel you there. I'm glad you know where I'm coming from. It's like, there are so many hurdles for the poor potential guy/candidate to jump over that it's ridiculous. What I often imagine is, taking the entire population of men on this planet, and stripping that quantity down one requirement/preference at a time, and those requirements would immediately and continually decimate the population, until I keep listing them off until the amount of guys left gets smaller and smaller. I'd be interested to know if there'd actually be ANYONE left by the time I was finished. Or, of those that are left, who would actually like me back? XD

Eh, there's no real need to fuss over it anymore though.

Well, I'm currently seventeen.

Yeah, I see what you mean about not wanting to have experienced it. If I was in your position, I'd probably feel the same.

No problem then. As long as you saw it.

Yeah, I know right?

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2014-06-30 14:48:16 +0000 UTC]

Yeah, I understand. D: Well sometimes opposites attract I guess? Yeah, I know what you mean. It must be a difficult thing to think about, mentally.

I can imagine.
Right, right. I tend to think dating means going out and doing things too, but most people just think it means when people are together? But I still say I've never been on a date. Because I haven't. I don't think dating and being in a relationship are the same thing. It's just that most people wouldn't agree with us.

Haha, yes. RIGHT, I imagine that too! I don't think there would be anyone left if I did that. And recently I've signed up for three dating websites and still no luck.

Yeah.

Thanks for understanding.

Right.

(Sorry if I missed any main points, I was trying to keep this one concise too.)

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2014-07-03 08:33:08 +0000 UTC]

Mm, yeah, I guess. :/

Yeah, I know what you mean. It does have a bit of an ambiguous definition.

Oh wow, you imagine it too? Yeah... And I saw on tumblr about you being on a dating website(s) ^_^ Perhaps you will find someone though. I was gonna write "hopefully", but that implies a lesser existence, when I believe you can still be just as happy if you don't find someone.
I don't know how I feel about dating websites. I don't think I'd personally ever join up to one? It just seems like a lot of effort and I don't know the kinds of guys that sign up to those websites. :/ Plus I'm content enough with being single right now. (Besides, I am still pretty damn young. )

(Okay, no worries. )

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2014-08-04 15:22:12 +0000 UTC]

I partially forgot what we were talking about imagining, but... yes?

Maybe. We'll see. I'm just trying the internet 'cause I've found better friends online than in person, so who knows.

Honestly I don't think very well of them, I'm just super tired of being single, so now I'm kinda just trying what I can. But I agree. The types up guys that up to those websites.... There's one site where all they recommend to me are guys in the military, but I just don't think I could handle the stress of marrying someone in the military. I'm young too, but.... I mean, I'm still an adult who's never been on a date. And Christians tend to marry young, so if I'm looking for a Christian man, I know I have to at least try to explore options before they're all snapped up but all the pretty girls. x__x

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2014-08-23 06:40:06 +0000 UTC]

We were talking about imagining this (from a previous reply of mine): What I often imagine is, taking the entire population of men on this planet, and stripping that quantity down one requirement/preference at a time, and those requirements would immediately and continually decimate the population, until I keep listing them off until the amount of guys left gets smaller and smaller. I'd be interested to know if there'd actually be ANYONE left by the time I was finished. Or, of those that are left, who would actually like me back? XD

Yeah, true.

Oh wow, yeah, I don't think I could handle the stress of that either. My first boyfriend was Singaporean, so he has to (and is currently) away at National Service for two years, which is compulsory for all able Singaporean-born males. I knew about it a couple of days after I met him, and I can't even begin to explain to you all the stress and anxiety I went through over that...
I see... So you're looking for a specifically Christian partner then? Do you think you'd be okay in a relationship with a non-Christian? Or is the Christian part kind of a requirement?

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VoiceActressKurutta In reply to EscarlataFox [2014-11-18 21:43:16 +0000 UTC]

Oh! Okay. I remmeber now.

Oh yeah, that would give me so much anxiety. But at least you know basically from the get-go.

And mhmm, I am looking for a Christian. I can be super close friends with non-Christians, and I can love them as human beings, but I don't think I could marry a non-christian because it'd just eventually cause a bunch of problems. So being a Christian is a requirement...

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EscarlataFox In reply to VoiceActressKurutta [2014-11-23 03:50:46 +0000 UTC]

Yeah... But I actually think it would have been better (and I'd have handled it better) if it was something that was suddenly sprung on me, as opposed to something I knew from the beginning. You'd think it would be better to have more time to mentally prepare yourself, but... Really it only gave me a lot more stress than necessary. It just ensured that I'd think over it wayyyy too much and psyche myself up to scare myself and make myself all the more worried.

Have you tried ChristianMingle?
I understand. Is it because you don't want to be that, super close to someone that might not make it to Heaven? That would probably be quite distressing to think that you won't get to be with your partner in the afterlife.
It might also simply be to possible conflicts that would arise about the whole ideology itself, having fights over Christianity.
Or it might also be a need to be on the same page as the person you're with; someone with the same kind of Christian values and also believe the same things you do.
Or is there something else that I haven't mentioned?

By the way, there's a little something I wonder about. Isn't a central idea of Christianity the idea that a marriage needs to be "consummated" and that if it isn't consummated the marriage isn't official? Because another Christian might have that view, and obviously, at least personally as a demisexual myself, I wouldn't be comfortable with that kind of perspective. To me, when you get married, you're married. I think the idea that you need to do another act after that which somehow makes it more of a marriage is a little ridiculous.
Although, I can understand that dating other Christians would be good because of the whole "marriage first" thing.

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